Taking responsibility for your violence

It’s hard to face up to your own actions. You might want to deny responsibility for your behaviour. Partner blaming is often the most common way to do this.

It’s hard to face up to your own actions. You might want to deny responsibility for your behaviour. Partner blaming is often the most common way to do this.

 

Examples of partner blaming

  • You think they need to change – to stop or start doing something so you won’t be triggered
  • You’d rather focus on their behaviour
  • You minimise the behaviour – “It only happened a couple of times”, “It was just a slap”
  • You use excuses.

No matter how you feel, it is not okay to scare your partner or children. No one should live in fear of the people closest to them. No matter what they do it is not okay to hurt them.

You may try to tell yourself it’s not that bad. But you know it is. There are alternatives. Things can be different. MensLine Australia can help. Call us today on 1300 78 99 78

 

Further reading

 

If you need to talk to someone, give one of our MensLine Australia counsellors a call on 1300 78 99 78 or access free video and online counselling.

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