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Family Violence

Domestic and family violence in our community is unacceptable. Everyone has the right to be free from harm and to live without fear of abuse. All victims need compassionate and highly responsive support.

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Help is Here

The Help is Here campaign provides information on support services available to anyone experiencing domestic and family violence, to help them access the support they need, when they need it.

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Abuse and domestic violence

Domestic and family violence in our community is unacceptable. Everyone has the right to be free from harm and to live without fear of abuse. All victims need compassionate and highly responsive support.

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Changing for Good

Changing for Good is a men’s behaviour change program that seeks to maintain behaviours learned during a traditional behaviour change program. We work with men to help them recognise their abusive behaviours and end their use of violence.

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Are you using domestic or family violence?

Domestic and/or family violence is any abusive behaviour in a family or intimate relationship where one person attempts to gain and maintain control over another. The violence is not limited to physical violence or sexual assault, it can also include emotional abuse and social or financial control.

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Common excuses when using violence

It’s very common for people who use violence and abuse in their relationship to use excuses. Below is a list of common excuses used when violence erupts in a relationship.

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Taking responsibility for your violence

It’s hard to face up to your own actions. You might want to deny responsibility for your behaviour. Partner blaming is often the most common way to do this.

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Using 'Time Out'

‘Time Out’ is a process of temporarily removing yourself physically from an anger-provoking situation in order to calm yourself before returning.

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Talking about violence for the first time

Being honest with yourself about what has been happening is the first big step towards making the change that needs to happen. The second big step is telling someone else about what’s been happening.

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Talking to a friend about their violence

You might think it’s best not to say anything because you might say the wrong thing. But saying the wrong thing isn’t the worst thing. The worst thing is staying silent. By saying nothing, you’re part of the problem.

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Experiencing a violent or abusive relationship

Being in a violent and abusive relationship can take many forms. The most common include physical violence and threats, emotional abuse, social and financial control, and persistent demeaning comments. Learn where to get advice & support when in a violent or abusive relationship from MensLine Australia.

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Who is responsible

Domestic violence is the misuse of power to gain control over another person. People who use violence will try to justify it and blame it on other things, yet somebody who is violent to their partner is usually able to choose not to be violent with everyone or anyone else. Violence is a choice. It is not your fault.

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Supporting someone experiencing violence

Abuse and domestic violence can be confronting, upsetting, frustrating and frightening for friends and family. If you are worried about a friend or family member who is experiencing violence or being abused, how you respond can make a big difference. Talking about what’s going on, identifying and naming it are very powerful ways to help.

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Staying safe

Information and support on staying safe from domestic and family violence including; safety at home, having an escape plan, safety after separation, safety in public or at work, safety on the Internet.

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Understanding emotional abuse

Domestic and family violence can take many forms. One common, and often unrecognised, form of domestic violence is emotional abuse, which is an ongoing pattern of behaviour intended to cause emotional harm.

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Understanding financial abuse

Domestic and family violence can take many forms – it can include many different types of behaviour including emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual and verbal abuse. One form of domestic violence which is often overlooked is financial abuse.

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Understanding physical abuse

Domestic violence can take many forms – it can include emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual, verbal abuse. The most commonly known is physical abuse, with 16% of women (1.5 million) and 5.9% of men (528,800) in Australia. Here we look at some signs of physical abuse, as well as some steps to address it.

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Understanding sexual abuse

Sexual abuse is a form of domestic violence, which can be defined as unwanted sexual activity. This activity is not just physical – it can also include verbal & emotional elements. Understand the signs and effects of sexual abuse and how to get help.

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Understanding spiritual abuse

Domestic violence can take many forms – it can include emotional, financial, physical, sexual and verbal. abuse. One of the lesser known forms of this behaviour is spiritual abuse, also known as religious abuse. Spiritual or Religious abuse can include control of another person’s religious choices and beliefs, as well as using religious beliefs to rationalise control over another person.

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Understanding verbal abuse

Understand what constitutes verbal abuse including the key signs to look for and how you can avoid it.