Changing for Good: Violence Prevention Program
The Violence Prevention Program is part of the Changing for Good service and is for men who are worried about their thoughts and behaviour escalating to physical violence.Read more
Being in a violent and abusive relationship can take many forms. The most common include physical violence and threats, emotional abuse, social and financial control, and persistent demeaning comments. Learn where to get advice & support when in a violent or abusive relationship.
Being in a violent and abusive relationship can take many forms. The most common include physical violence and threats, emotional abuse, social and financial control, and persistent demeaning comments.
Violence and abuse in intimate relationships includes:
No one person’s experience is typical.
Violence and abuse in intimate relationships have many different combinations of controlling behaviour and can also change over time.
Questions to ask yourself:
Experiencing violence and abuse, even over a short time, can lead to long-standing changes in a person, including:
There is now far greater understanding of the frequency of violence and abuse in intimate relationships.
It is important to remember:
Let someone else know what is going on. Talk with a person in a position of authority (police, lawyer, doctor) who will know your rights and responsibilities or who can put you in contact with a professional for expert advice. When contacting police, in some circumstances they will be required to take action if your safety is at risk.
It is important that you find someone you can confide in about your situation. Talking about what is happening is very important and can undo some of the feelings of isolation and helplessness that are common in victims of violent and abusive relationships. This person can have specialist skills such as counselling, but that is not essential; it needs to be someone who will listen to you carefully and be available as you move through the process of working out how to manage the situation.
Develop a safety plan if you believe your safety, or the safety of others, could be at risk. The safety plan is a predetermined course of action to use when you decide there is an imminent risk of violence or psychological harm (children can be harmed psychologically when witnessing repeated abuse). The safety plan is designed to create distance and remove the likelihood of an incident happening.
Your safety plan may include things such as:
Keep a journal of incidents. This could be useful if you need legal protection or police intervention.
A change in your partner’s behaviour is unlikely to occur without them obtaining professional assistance:
The Post-Men’s Behaviour Change Program is part of the Changing for Good service and is for men who have completed a Men’s Behaviour Change Program (MBCP) in the last 12 months.Read more