Ten ways to become a better partner

Relationships are at the core of our lives and can provide us with love, support, and a sense of belonging.

A positive and fulfilling relationship has a foundation of trust, respect, and open communication. When you have a close relationship with your partner, you can share hopes, values, goals, and life experiences. A strong relationship can help you feel connected, improving your mental health and wellbeing. To get the most out of your relationship, we have ten ways to help you become a better partner and strengthen your connection.

10 tips to help you become a better partner

1. Build trust and respect: A healthy relationship is built on a foundation of trust and respect. You can build trust by being reliable and keeping your promises, and show respect by listening to your partner and valuing their perspective. This foundation helps you and your partner to feel seen, heard, understood, and accepted.

2. Recognise that physical closeness is only one expression of intimacy: Intimacy goes beyond physical closeness. It extends to feeling loved and valued and can mean different things to different people. Intimacy can be telling your partner why you love them, having deep conversations, showing you care, doing special things, or spending time together.

3. Respect your partner’s independence: Acknowledge each other’s need for independence. Everyone needs their own space and identity.

4. Be willing to communicate: A healthy relationship is built on open and honest communication. Create a safe environment where you and your partner can express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns without fear of judgment or criticism. Actively listen to understand what your partner is feeling.

5. Value your differences: A healthy relationship is not about being the same but accepting and appreciating each other’s differences. Be open to negotiating your differences with respect and generosity. You are not going to get your way all the time. Instead of wanting your partner to be exactly like you, appreciate how they differ from you and celebrate their unique qualities. This can make your relationship stronger and more fulfilling.

6. Allow for space: Give each other space to grow as individuals. A healthy relationship allows both partners to pursue their interests and passions without feeling guilty or pressured. Regular time alone gives you space to recharge. This will allow you to give more to your relationship in the long run.

7. Build a support network: Maintain and build a supportive network of friends outside the relationship. No single relationship will meet every need.

8. Spend quality time together: Find ways to give your partner your undivided attention. Make time for activities that you enjoy doing together.

9. Don’t take love for granted: It can be easy to take love for granted, but it does require regular maintenance. Think about what you can do or say to make your partner feel loved and appreciated.

10. Have fun: Keep your relationship exciting by breaking out of the routine and trying new things. Maintain a sense of playfulness, affection, and positive humour. Enjoy each other’s company and celebrate your life together.

Building a solid connection takes time, effort, and commitment from both partners.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to improve your relationship, consider downloading our free booklet, Renovate Your Relationship. This guide offers practical advice and strategies to help you identify and address potential issues before they escalate. It’s a valuable resource for men who want to strengthen their relationships and create a more fulfilling life together.

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