Domestic and family violence

The Changing for Good service provides counselling for men who want to continue having healthy and respectful relationships with others.

The Violence Prevention Program is part of the Changing for Good service and is for men who are worried about their thoughts and behaviour escalating to physical violence.

The Post-Men’s Behaviour Change Program is part of the Changing for Good service and is for men who have completed a Men’s Behaviour Change Program (MBCP) in the last 12 months.

Domestic and/or family violence is any abusive behaviour in a family or intimate relationship where one person attempts to gain and maintain control over another. The violence is not limited to physical violence or sexual assault, it can also include emotional abuse and social or financial control.

It’s very common for people who use violence and abuse in their relationship to use excuses. Below is a list of common excuses used when violence erupts in a relationship.

It’s hard to face up to your own actions. You might want to deny responsibility for your behaviour. Partner blaming is often the most common way to do this.

‘Time Out’ is a process of temporarily removing yourself physically from an anger-provoking situation in order to calm yourself before returning.

Being honest with yourself about what has been happening is the first big step towards making the change that needs to happen. The second big step is telling someone else about what’s been happening.

You might think it’s best not to say anything because you might say the wrong thing. But saying the wrong thing isn’t the worst thing. The worst thing is staying silent. By saying nothing, you’re part of the problem.