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Feeling as though your life is out of control, and that it will never get better is a common feeling. Here MensLine Australia discusses ways in which you can help yourself through this difficult time.
Although you might feel painfully alone right now, it is important for you to know that other people have felt like ending their lives too. Having suicidal thoughts can be a response to feeling as if your life is out of your control; that it will never get better. You might also think that your family and friends would be better off without you.
“Having suicidal thoughts can be a response to feeling as if your life is out of your control.”
Other people thinking about suicide will have had similar thoughts to your own.
Above all, it is important to remember that suicidal feelings dissipate. Experiencing these thoughts does not mean you need to act on them.
The following are things other people found helpful when feeling overwhelmed to the point of wanting to harm or kill themselves. You might find it useful to experiment with some of these ideas and keep a list of the ones you’ve found helpful so you can refer back to them when you need to.
While it isn’t easy when you’re feeling so overwhelmed, eating well, maintaining a daily routine and keeping active can all help you feel more able, and help you to keep on top of things.
Learn about other relaxation and coping techniques. There are a range of relaxation techniques that people find useful to reduce feelings of being overwhelmed. You can learn more about these by searching the internet for reputable websites and visiting your local library or bookshop.
Some examples of other relaxation techniques are:
Feeling suicidal can be an overwhelming and painful experience, but it is not something you have to bear alone. Asking for help is an important step towards getting the support you need.
In an emergency
If you are in immediate danger, or concerned for your safety in any way:
Each of these emergency services teams are specially trained to support people in crisis, including people feeling suicidal, and are able to keep you safe.
There are a number of services and professionals available to help you through this difficult time. You may wish to speak to someone over the phone, or prefer to seek help face to face. Whichever you choose, it’s important that you are as honest about your situation and the way you’re feeling as possible, so you can get the support you need. Talking to someone about such a painful issue can be difficult, so you may want to check out our How to talk about suicide page for information and tips on how to start a conversation.