Man using common excuses for violence

Taking responsibility for your violence

It’s hard to face up to your own actions. You might want to deny responsibility for your behaviour. Partner blaming is often the most common way to do this.


Examples of partner blaming

  • You think they need to change – to stop or start doing something so you won’t be triggered
  • You’d rather focus on their behaviour
  • You minimise the behaviour – “It only happened a couple of times”, “It was just a slap”
  • You use excuses.

No matter how you feel, it is not okay to scare your partner or children. No one should live in fear of the people closest to them. No matter what they do it is not okay to hurt them.

You may try to tell yourself it’s not that bad. But you know it is. There are alternatives. Things can be different. MensLine Australia can help. Call us today on 1300 78 99 78

Further reading

Common excuses used to avoid taking responsibility


If you’re using family or domestic violence and are ready to change your behaviour, find out more about our men’s behaviour change program, Changing for Good