Changing for Good
As 2019 draws to a close, we’re reflecting on the popular topics our community found most useful this year. At Changing For Good, we aim to help men stop using violence in their family and relationships. Below are the blogs that most resonated with those seeking information, or help.
Understanding emotional abuse
One common, and often unrecognised, form of domestic violence is emotional abuse (also known as psychological abuse). Emotional abuse is an ongoing pattern of behaviour intended to cause emotional harm, through manipulation, isolation or intimidation. Here we look at some signs of emotional abuse in domestic partner relationships:
Understanding spiritual abuse
One of the lesser known forms of domestic violence is spiritual abuse, also known as religious abuse. Spiritual abuse is complicated, and can include control of another person’s religious choices and beliefs, as well as using these beliefs to rationalise control over another person. Here are some signs of spiritual abuse in domestic partner relationships:
Understanding verbal abuse
A common form of domestic violence is verbal abuse, where a person uses words to gain power and control over their partner (or ex-partner). There is a distinction between verbal abuse and one-off unhealthy arguments where people yell at each other, or get angry. Verbal abuse is when the arguments are ongoing and uneven, and one partner regularly initiates arguments to degrade, control, or dominate the other:
Supporting someone experiencing domestic violence
You may not be certain if someone is experiencing domestic violence, as they may be trying to hide it, out of fear or embarrassment. Abuse can also occur in cycles (where an abuser may promise it won’t happen again), making it even harder for people to decide to speak up. Even if someone hasn’t told you they are experiencing abuse, you may notice some signs in the person you are concerned about:
How to be a better listener
When miscommunication arises in the home, workplace, or with friends, effective listening skills go a long way towards addressing misunderstandings and establishing healthier communication patterns. Here we looked at some tips that may help improve your listening skills:
Changing For Good’s Top 5 Most Viewed resources of 2019
As well as our blog, Changing For Good has a range of resources available to help explain our service, as well as some common topics and questions around domestic violence and men’s behavior change models. Here are our most viewed resources.
- What happens in a men’s behaviour change group
- Common excuses for violence
- What is violence?
- Assessing risk and safety
- Staying Safe
Changing for Good welcomes new participants who have successfully completed a men’s behaviour change program and want extra support in their efforts at change. We also welcome participants who have difficulty accessing a men’s behaviour change program for a variety of reasons. Just call 1300 015 120 and leave a message with your name and contact details and one of the team will follow up with you.